#1 Connectedness
I'm drawn to personality and temperament analysis tools like bugs to the front of a car. I almost can't stop myself from taking them. When I started hearing about the Strengths Finder book by Tom Rath it landed on my Amazon wish list pretty quick. Not too much later I had my hands on it and started running though it. I took the online assessment and read through the results. I've decided to use the five strengths the assessment indicates for a series of posts.
My highest ranking strength: Connectedness
People who are especially talented in the Connectedness theme have faith in the links between all things. They believe there are few coincidences and that almost every event has a reason.
In reading through the more detailed description there are some terms that, I must admit, I do not buy into. To be fair, I am a Christ-follower and live, work and breath: Church, or better defined - the Community of Believers. When I read phrases like, "collective unconscious" or "life force" it does rub me the wrong way. That being said: I understand that the author is not coming from the same paradigm as me and will not let the terms get in the way.
I do believe that there is a link between all things. I do believe that there is a God who has created everything and is involved in His creation. I believe that we have free will and God will not override our decisions, even when we are making foolish decisions.
I do believe that 'nothing happens in a vacuum'. Decisions we make today will affect who and what we are in five years. Choices we make today will have intended consequences but also unintended consequences. How we choose to live, or should I say, for whom we choose to live will effect our eternity.
I do believe that we are too live as a community, not as individuals. The needs of the group should come before the rights of individual.
Yes, I believe that there is a connectedness through all things. I believe that God is in all things and through all things.
Romans 8:28 - And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Develop or Deploy
There's a whole lot of talk about developing leadership in the church world. Unfortunately, more talk than action.
Your own leadership style has more of a determining factor on your ability and inclination to develop others than their willingness to be developed. The 'run and gun' leader is motivated by results and usually looking for people to recruit that will help them accomplish the objective. This results in deploying leaders instead of developing leaders. The 'run and gun' leader usually does a great job of plugging the right people into the right areas. This doesn't mean that they are great at developing people. Usually, these newly recruited leaders have been developed by someone else and then recruited and then plugged in.
I once worked for a man who worked on the assumption that development happens by osmosis... just being the the environment. There is some truth to that. It really does help to be in the environment. However, if osmosis is the chief development technique, there will be no long term success.
Developing others requires us to:
1. Be focused on their growth, not our goals.
2. Be willing to grow them and let them go.
3. Understand that not everyone will grow like we know they could.
Developing leaders takes time and energy. It is, quite frankly, much easier to hire a person of competence and let them run. It's easier to find a leader that to develop one. What has God called us to do?
Choosing to Cheat : Review
Book: Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley
I admit it, when Andy Stanley speaks I listen. It made perfect sense that one of the early purchases for my Kindle would be one of his writings. Choosing to Cheat offers a practical argument aimed at those who have workaholic tendencies. Andy addresses the tension felt between the drive for success in the workplace and the significance of healthy relationships at home and finding the balance point. "Work is about doing. Family is about being." We are created for both.
The underlying message is about priorities and addressing the gap between that can exist between what we say (family first) and what we do (time doing work). The title of his book comes from the premise that something has to give, and what gives is cheated. For workaholics, it is the family that is cheated. Family measures "love" by time. Too much time at work results in a family that feels unloved.
Church Attendance
Dear Pastor,
You often stress attendance at worship as being very important for a Christian, but I think a person has a right to miss now and then. I think every person ought to be excused for the following reasons and the number of times indicated:
- Christmas (Sunday before or after)--1
- New Year's (Party lasted too long)--1
- Easter (Get away for the holidays)--1
- July 4 (National holiday)--1
- Labor Day (Need to get away)--1
- Memorial Day (Visit hometown)--1
- School closing (Kids need a break)--1
- School opens (One last fling)--1
- Family reunions (Mine and wife's)--2
- Sleep late (Saturday night activities)--4
- Deaths in family--4
- Anniversary (Second honeymoon)--1
- Sickness (One for each family member)--5
- Business trips (A must)--3
- Vacation (3 weeks)--3
- Bad weather (Ice, snow, rain, clouds)--6
- Ball games--5
- Unexpected company (Can't walk out)--5
- Time changes (Spring ahead; fall back)--2
- Special on TV (Super Bowl, etc.)--3
Pastor, that leaves only two Sundays per year. So, you can count on us to be in church on the fourth Sunday in February and the third Sunday in August unless providentially hindered.
Sincerely,
Faithful Member
How the way I got saved can be a problem!
Years ago I was invited to tour the headquarters of Little Caesars pizza in downtown Detroit. As we were being shown the corporate facilities I was truly impressed. At one point we sat down with one of the executives and were given “the talk.” We were told the story of how Little Caesars began and how Mr. Ilitch (owner of Little Caesars and a couple of the Detroit sports teams) believed that there are 1001 ways to sell pizza. Now think about that, 1001 ways to sell pizza! How many can you name? The point is that there are many more ways to sell pizza than any of the current pizza companies have come up with.
I recently heard someone quote Craig Groeschel, Sr. Pastor of Lifechurch.tv, “If we are going to reach people that no one is reaching, we must use methods that no one is using.” I’ve been thinking…
One of the big outreach obstacles in the life of a church is the path that those who are already convinced took to get into the local church body. For example, those that came to a faith decision at a city wide crusade will tend to believe that that is how God wants everyone to come to faith. For those that came to faith on the street when someone walked up and shared God’s love with them, they will expect that street evangelism is the anointed means to the end. For those that accepted Christ in the living room of a believing neighbor, neighborhood relationships will be the way to share their faith. For those that came forward at the end of a Sunday service in response to an altar call, they believe that is the way outreach is supposed to take place.
We need to embrace the concept that Mr. Ilitch ‘preaches’ to the Little Caesars employees and keep thinking outside the box, searching for new ways to share the same unchanging message of God’s love. We can’t become so focused on the method, that we miss the opportunities to help others discover God and experience his power in life-changing ways.
