Teams : Complement or Compensate
This past weekend was the 2010 Ryder Cup. A unique golf event. Golf is a sport for individuals. The Ryder Cup takes this sport for individuals and creates a team-based event. The USA vs. Europe. There are three types of matches to the competition. One is called Fourballs, two players from each team play their own ball, but only the lowest score from each team is counted on each hole. A second is called Foursomes, two players from each team play one ball and take alternate shots until the hole is finished. And the third is singles, where one player from each team are placed in head-to-head competition.
One of the major challenges that the team captains face is "pairing" the right players together in the Fourballs and Foursomes matches. Style, chemistry and competence are all factors in how the captains put together the pairings. In the Fourballs, a captain may choose to put an aggressive player and a conservative player in the same pairing. In the Foursomes, a captain may pair a great iron player and a great putter. In all pairings, the player's chemistry is usually taken into consideration... I say usually because a there was the time that Tiger Woods and Phil Mickelson were paired together - their professional competition hasn't fostered much goodwill toward each other.
Here are some thoughts regarding teams and how they can work best.
Evaluate Your Group Effectiveness
Every now and then a leader needs to take inventory about how their group is going. For all-church group life evaluation, forms and online assessment tools are great. However, there is a need for each group leader to take a reading of where their own group is at. It's not meant for deep evaluation.
One form of evaluation comes through the power of story.
One evening at our group I started by telling the group they could choose Option #1 or Option #2. I gave them no indication what was behind ‘door #1′ or ‘door #2.’ One of the outspoken individuals picked #2 and everyone else just fell in line. I got more insight as to whom I could approach as a future apprentice.
Everyone needs a coach!
Mentoring and coaching are two different avenues to the same end: growth and personal development. Both types of relationships are needed so we can fully develop. Often we look for mentors, people who have been where we want to be and we learn how to get there from them. We also need coaches in our life to help us get where we want to be.
Coaches are not necessarily experts in the realm that we are seeking to grow.
Tiger Woods is arguable the best golfer of all time. And he usually has had a coach.
Tiger turned pro on August 29, 1996 with the statement: "Hello World!" In the first sixteen months of his professional career, Tiger played 28 tournaments. He had 14 Top 10 finishes and six wins. The average PGA tour player doesn't win that many tournaments in his career.
Death of a Burden
As I have been going though my current transition I have noticed an interesting pattern.
While going though the emotional journey of loss, I have attempted to cognitively process those very emotions. I have noticed a parallel to what is known as The Five Stages of Grief.
In her 1969 book, On Death and Dying, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduces the idea that there are five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance/Resignation.
Full-time ministry provides a unique environment where the work circle, the social circle and the worship circle are identical. When there is a loss of the work circle, it has a direct impact on the other circles. The loss of a ministry role results in the loss of relationships and also results in a loss of a church home.
The process is very similar to the five stages of grief.
Going through the loss of both the ministry role and the associated relationships has been painful. But like the winter, it precedes the new life of spring.
Looking back on the last few weeks, I have come to a place of acceptance: I no longer have the burden for my former place of ministry. It has died. I no longer stay up at night dwelling on how to help the people grow in their faith. I no longer wake in the early morning hours burdened with the needs of he people.
God has created a opening through the process of loss. An opening that is ripe with anticipation for the next God-given burden!
David and Saul
There are many things about King David that that earned him the description: "a man after God's own heart." Remaining submissive to Saul is one of those things.
1. David was a better leader than Saul. 1 Samuel 18:7 says that the people were celebrating that David was a better leader than Saul. David had tremendous character to remain submissive to a leader who didn't have the same leadership capacity that David himself had. A reminder to all those in second-chair (or third, fourth or fifth-chair leaders) is that your leadership capacity isn't a reason to stop submitting to your leader.
2. God had removed his anointing from Saul. We read that God told Samuel that he had rejected Saul as king in 1 Samuel 16:1. Samuel went to anoint the next king. The fact that God had rejected Saul as king did not remove Saul from the position of king. It can be tempting to look at our leader and conclude that God has rejected him as leader. We can start questioning his leadership capacity and decision making ability. The fact is, God may have rejected the leader, but it is not our responsibility to replace the leader. That is still in God's hands. A friend of mine recently used a line that is appropriate: "The interaction between God and man is often mishandled."
3. Samuel had anointed David as the next king. 1 Samuel 16:13 records the time that Samuel anointed David to be king. This happened before David even entered Saul's service. One of the hardest places for an individual to be, especially when they realize they are the next leader, is the position of follower. David entered Saul's service knowing that God had rejected Saul as king and knowing that he was going to be the next king!
David was such a man of integrity. For David to remain submissive to a rejected king and to remain submissive to a king who was trying to kill him required that he was submitted to The King of kings.


